This month I talk about soul expansion vs soul retraction and how that feels on a physical and emotional level...
April is my favourite month of the year. Not only is it the beginning of spring, and the trees are their most beautiful, but it’s also my birthday. :-)
This month, my introverted self is asking for a little break from videos, so I’m posting my forecast in a blog format instead.
So, what’s coming up in April you might wonder:
The dismantling of our old ways, our old self. This will be an ongoing process, but I’m being shown the importance of starting now in April. With Venus retrograde still influencing us until April 15th, and Saturn going retrograde on April 6th, we can expect quite a ride.
We wear so many hats, day in and day out. We are friends, sisters, sons, mothers, husbands, employees or bosses, colleagues, leaders, way showers, role models, teachers, students, writers and the list goes on and on.
In my meditation this morning, when I asked for the message for April, I was asked to strip off all my gowns, and all those damn hats. It took me a while to get rid of all hats I’m usually wearing. But the feeling once I did was amazing.
I was shown that in the coming months we should focus on our innermost essence, our soul and to stay focused inwards. I was asked to share with you that we don’t have to know all the answers and that we can stop judging ourselves and who we think we should be as a mother, colleague or as a leader. We are also asked to stop judging others who are trying to wear their hats as best as they can.
As we enter this non-judgemental space within us, when we stop behaving in certain ways because we think that’s what society wants from us, we are in a space of purity and innocence, and are able to commune with the divine and the divinity within us.
And we ALL have this part within us, that part that is so pure and innocent, and that we rarely connect to.
The next months are karmic months and if you don’t find that inner focus, that non-judgemental zone, the karmic ride will be a turbulent one for you.
The next months are there to show us how far we have come already: have we settled all our karmic debts yet? Or do we still feel frequently triggered by people, situations, or events. Are we mostly peaceful, or are we in constant drowning mode? Are we enjoying life and what we do, or do we feel we missed the boat, feel lost or stuck?
These coming months many questions might arise. And it’s a good process. A process that might seem turbulent for some at first, but that is required to find the still waters within us again.
My advice for you, dear ones, is to find a way to sit alone, to create a “me-space” where you can be left alone to meditate, reflect, journal, or to just be nothing else than your pure and innocent self, once you find that part within yourself.
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Happy April everyone. Let me know how you are all doing in comments below.
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When I was around 11 years old, I remember how I sat down on the staircase at home and started to cry. When my mum asked me why I was crying I replied: « I don’t know, Mum » All I knew was that there was a sadness.
Fast forward to 20 years later. I had moved to Thailand, given up my corporate career, and had decided to take care of my wellbeing. I studied Meditation and Reiki. And with all these practices I had a shocking revelation:
I was a God damn sponge for people’s problems and emotional rollercoasters. And the worst thing was: it didn’t even matter whether they told me about it or not. As a kid or young adult, I couldn’t differentiate what was mine and what wasn’t. When there was sadness in my house I cried. When someone felt angry, I felt angry too.
As an empath, I feel people’s emotional states. All. The. Time.
There are so many people like me out there, natural empaths, who are open to receive people’s vibes all around them. Usually it’s the people who are good listeners, the ones that always like to help out. Usually we are the introverted ones – and we are introverted precisely for this reason: being surrounded by too many people, crowds, energies is too overwhelming for us.
It can be a beautiful gift to be so open, but it can also be a curse when we don’t know how to deal with it.
When we don’t know how to handle it, we are sponges – we absorb people’s negative energy: their problems, their low vibes, or their negative emotions. We do this subconsciously, as mostly we are unaware of what we are absorbing.
However, tune into your body:
- How do you feel when you live in a house with depressed people?
- How do you feel when people in your office are tense, angry or nervous? Do you then also feel it in your body?
- How do you feel when your friends and family tell you all their problems, how do you feel once they leave? Do you feel deprived of energy? Do you feel low?
Chances are high you are absorbing their negativity.
Empaths do this, because deep down we are healers. We want to help people. We want them all to feel better. We want to cheer people up. Seeing people being depressed, angry or in any other low state of mind drags us down.
BUT: It’s not healthy for us to be this way. We need to learn how to help people without taking on their burden and their heavy weight. We don’t have to carry it for them. (We really don’t!)
You wouldn’t even believe what we carry for others:
- We absorb people’s negative emotions
- We carry our ancestors’ traumas (this was proven by epigenetics)
- We absorb our parent’s stories and the way they dealt with love, money, health, emotions etc
- And all of that on top of our own baggage, our own repressed memories and traumas and trapped emotions
Now, what happens when we are sponges?
Every negative emotion that is felt, is energy. Emotions are energy in motion. Energy flows freely and can flow from one person to another one. This is why we can empathise with others. This is why we might cry when we see someone who is also crying. We absolutely feel their emotional state.
I once worked with a client who had severe arthritis. Through the work we did I quickly became aware of what an open “sponge” she was. She absorbed everyone’s misery. Even when she was severely ill and weak, she still took the time to listen to all her friends’ problems.
There is only so much our body can take. Eventually we will get physically sick. Our body will react if we don’t learn how to shield ourselves better.
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I came to understand a few things about exhaustion. And believe it or not, sometimes feeling exhausted is a GOOD thing. Let me explain:
There are two levels of exhaustion. The first one, I will label the “burned out” kind of exhaustion. You have a career, a spouse, kids, friends, hobbies, and are trying to juggle it all.
There is not enough “me time” or resting time. Your body at some point will feel depleted. Lack of energy, insomnia, depressive phases, chronic illnesses such as migraines, back pains or digestive issues might occur frequently, and will lead to a full burn out when not treated.
The second state of exhaustion, I call “Soul transformation”.
Let’s look at a caterpillar. Once it ate all it could and grew, it decided, somewhere on a soul level, that it was destined for greater things. It believed that maybe, one day, it could learn how to fly.
And so the caterpillar builds a little cocoon. It might seem like it’s only chilling out, but quite the opposite is true. A massive transformation is taking place. It’s changing forms, getting new organs, limbs, and colourful wings. The caterpillar needs this resting time for this metamorphosis to take place. And it’s during this resting phase, that the caterpillar is most productive.
We are like that too! Sometimes I wondered why I would feel so tired: I had left my corporate job behind ages ago. I built my business from scratch, but work probably 1/3 of the time I used to. I only work around 6-7 months a year, while traveling the rest of it. I have created a lifestyle that allows me to rest and to have enough “me time”.
So, why would I still feel so tired sometimes?
Because I’m in constant transformation mode. And transforming always requires us to let go. Letting go is extremely tiring.
There is no transformation without letting go
Letting go is essential for us to change and to transform. Whether we let go of people we no longer identify with, a partner we have outgrown, or a family member that makes us feel anxious with their constant negativity. It can be a job, or a whole career. Or it can just be internal stuff we let go: our limiting beliefs, our self-sabotaging tendencies, our lack of self-worth and compassion towards ourselves.
The caterpillar decided to let go of its entire body. It decided to let go of the life it knew so well. It decided that being a worm was no longer good enough. It decided that it was ready for more. Most likely it didn’t even know what a beautiful butterfly it would become.
And isn’t it true for so many of us? We just don’t know how extraordinarily beautiful we become after each big transformation. After each time we say “fuck this shit” and leave toxic relationships, shitty jobs or stop degrading ourselves with our negative self-talk, like “I’m not good enough, not smart enough, not strong enough. I’m a crappy mother and spouse, I have no gifts and talents and no life purpose.”
When we do self-development work, we work on a deep soul level. Therefore, it’s essential that we allow ourselves to rest, to have those extra naps, to cancel all those appointments and gatherings that are stressing us out, or to pay attention to what we eat.
Our body is integrating our soul’s expansion.
We are tired because our body needs to catch up with our soul’s expansion. It’s learning to integrate more life force energy (Chi), to host more positive frequencies to feel lighter. Our metabolism speeds up, our cells are literally being re-programmed and allow more energy to flow through them. Our DNA will release a lot of junk and toxic energy that we inherited from our lovely ancestors. You just need to google for “epigenetics”. There are studies that confirmed that whatever traumas our ancestors experienced, were passed on from one generation to the next.
The world needs you to be patient and to have the faith.
I can’t even stress enough, how important it is for you to not only do this inner work, but also to allow your body to catch up with all these changes.
The world needs you to be a fully formed butterfly. We need more butterflies to fly around, and to help other caterpillars with their transformation. And that’s the real beauty of this whole process. It’s super contagious. All the caterpillars around you, that watched you become a flying butterfly will now look up to you, waiting for you to show them how to also fly. They will trust that whatever work they do on themselves, and that the period they take out to rest for the transformation to take place, will be worthwhile.
Their fear of the unknown, their fear of making changes might decrease. We need the more courageous caterpillar to step up now and to go through this transformation, so that we can help all those, who have bigger fears, and a bigger resistance towards change.
So, dear ones, whether you are at a caterpillar stage, cocooning stage or are already flying: trust yourselves, and know that letting go is the start of a beautiful transformative journey, and that feeling exhausted while these changes occur is absolutely normal!
As a soul guide, I’m here to help you navigate this process. Feel free to reach out to me should you need any help, advice, healing or encouragement. I went through all these stages multiple of times, so I can relate to you no matter at what stage you are at. :-)
Let’s fly together!
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Venus is going retrograde soon, which happens only every 11/2 years. The pre-shadow phase has already started, which means if you are sensitive, you might already be feeling it.
Learn how Venus will influence your relationships in coming months & your finances, and what you can do about it :-)
Recently I had a Reiki session with a girl from Qatar.
Once I arrived at her throat, I felt it was nearly exploding: I felt a lot of unexpressed anger in there and kept hearing in my mind "I wish I was a boy!"
After the session I asked her: "Did you ever feel like you would have preferred to be a boy?"
She smiled sadly and replied: "Yes, when I was little I was allowed to play with the boys. Then, once I got older, they didn't allow me to play with them anymore. I always wished I had been a boy because of that."
She had blocked her whole feminine energy in her body because of that, and I explained to her that it was time to be proud to be a girl, and to let all that anger that accumulated in her throat to go.
At the next session she showed up with beautiful blow dried hair and red nailpolish. Her whole energy had shifted.
I still felt that her throat was unbalanced and after the session I told her it's important to express herself, her emotions and how she feels.
"I grew up being told to be quiet," she told me.
If you are are parent: never tell your kids to be quiet- allow them to express themselves and their emotions. Kids who grow up without learning how to express themselves will have so many difficulties later in life to stand up for themselves, to feel like their message matters: to feel like what they feel matters...
I wished positive communication was taught early on in school, positive, non violent communication is what's needed in this world - and we all have the capacity to become better communicators.
So dear ones: if you don't already do so: start expressing yourselves, stand up for yourselves and for what's not ok - in a kind and non-violent way.
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